The chances that you meet someone in the summer and build a solid romantic connection with them is slim to none, and while some might choke it up to the many options that come with a hot girl summer, we all know the real reason behind situationship. Summer is the unspoken unanimous hoe-phase most people are compelled to navigate when the sun comes out this time of year.
If you’ve put yourself out there for love at any point, chances are you’ve given or been on the receiving end of mixed signals or potential disconnects.
Gallivanting about and dating in the summer is the culmination of mixed signals masqueraded in an enticing game of musical chairs. Whether it’s cuffing season or time to throw caution to the wind for the summer, love in the air is the gift that never wavers.
One of the more efficient ways to navigate this unconventional dating season is to indulge desire, make bold decisions, and carpe diem your way through it.
Here’s a breakdown of how to handle that red hot passion should it cross your path and should you choose to engage.
Setting expectations or intentions for the season is important. Clarifying whether something flirty and casual suits your tastes better than an undefined shaky relationship that leaves you parched in front of an empty tap might save you some heartbreak along the way.
Putting yourself out there is oversimplified by Kigali’s close-knitted social scene, which conveniently always convenes most people at the same places and times, making it easy to have as much fun as possible with friends and simultaneously get a head start on interacting with your beau for the summer without being caught off guard.
Coincidentally, showing up to the same events is a great icebreaker should you choose to engage ‘your target’, and the more fun and flirtier it gets, bods well in your favor, alongside the willingness to take a leap and smile at them from across the room, or start a nonchalant conversation, whether by text or the lingering sliver of a whisper.
Posting strategic thirst traps is where the interest peaks for all the fiery summer flings. While it’s a bold decision that might not deliver the desired result (this is for the girlies waiting for him to view their stories or like a post), it’s the kind of situation that wounds up missing the moon and shooting for the stars, and this means that missing or getting your target will also lengthen your playing field.
Building a lasting love from a seasonal summer fling is no small feat, and willing one into existence is even harder because the unanimous hoe phase leaves only so much room for the kind of livid emotional ties wedding vows are made of.
Despite it being a rare occurrence in the wake of unconventional summer dating dynamics, long-term sentimental romances are likely to be pulled from ‘summer connections’ if the passion has been building up over time, like when crushing on a friend is mutual, and it gradually turns into something more, or in the case of rekindling with a past love.
Summer romances typically thrive for the connections that are not that deep, and while it is decidedly not the time to set firm roots, certain exceptions can be made. Flirting and getting to know someone new and no strings attached bonds are the red, hot ink summer romances are written with, and while hasty decisions like reconnecting with an ex can wizzle their way into the mix, the unexpected matches are what should be most anticipated, especially with a prior build-up.
Most people not in committed relationships are open to something fun and casual, like a friends-with-benefits arrangement or a situationship, but once paired with someone more love-struck than they are ready to handle, things could go south, which is why summer romances work best on a now-or-never basis with no hopes of forever.
