Have you ever walked into a room feeling like a million bucks, only to leave feeling like spare change? We have all been there. That invisible force field of confidence and charisma Gen-Z calls “aura” can sometimes fizzle out faster than a cheap firework.
In recent months, the word aura has surged erratically on social media, becoming the slang of the moment among tweens, teens and 20-somethings, to signify the spectrum of attractiveness one has depending on how one acts. Upon its redefinition, certain actions raise or decrease your points.
What started as online comments has grown big enough that shoe brands and political parties are now adopting the term, giving and taking away points at whim.
SENS’s writers dived into 7 surprisingly (or not) common situations that can drain your aura faster than a smartphone battery on its last legs, especially for Kigali residents. By recognizing these aura-assassins, you’ll be better equipped to protect your vibe and keep your energy field glowing strong.
Lip licking
While for most people it depends on who is licking the lips and how they do it, many women I discussed this topic with were not fond of it. It’s eluding why some men find it sexy but word on the street is that it’s disturbing when you do too much. One lady on TikTok said that men lick their lips when hitting on ladies to marinate their lies, and that is how simply you can lose your aura points in a matter of seconds.
Brag about being friends with a celebrity
You may be super close with Beyonce which is great and cool but the moment you start to brag about it and all your conversations are about them, it gives people an ick immediately, and just like that, – 1000 aura points.
Inviting a girl over to your place on your first date
If all you planned for your first date with that girl you have been talking to, is asking her to visit you to your house, you’re automatically tanked. Surprisingly, some men don’t think it is a big deal, but unless you want to lose your aura from a girl you care about, take her on a proper date. This is a major turn-off for many women, and next time stand on business.
Bragging about your Status
Bragging about your accomplishments and status in life is a sure way to lose your aura, especially if you can’t let your date talk, having the whole conversation end up being about you. For Kigali guys who like boasting about how much they make and where they work, this is the wrong way to go about it. It comes off as having an inflated sense of self-importance which can be off-putting for many.
Cheapening out on the restaurant menu
As a guy, when you are on a date, and the moment you go through the menu you realize you can only afford the cheaper options and now you’re suggesting to have a pizza before your girl has even decided on what she wants to order. Your girl will probably see through it and pick something else. You don’t even know she likes pizza in the first place. Here is a tip for you, next time you take someone out to eat check the restaurant’s menu first and see if you can afford it.
Not being able to hold your liquor
If we’re being honest Kigalians drink a lot, embarrassing yourself on a hangout with friends, even worse on a date for those who drink on dates, is a sure way to lose your aura. If you’re one of those people who get shitfaced after one or too many sips, this will make you lose your aura.
Broken English
I don’t know why for some Kigalians speaking English is such a big flex, I mean you can communicate in any language however much you like but at least be good at it. It is so embarrassing meeting a handsome Rwandan guy with a good sense of fashion but all he does is force English to impress you. You could simply speak Kinyarwanda and keep your ten because otherwise, you become a minus to a girl who would have cared less.
Acting all busy
Honestly, Kigali life is hectic and it never gets easier. However, some people pretend to be living that busy life by rubbing it into other people’s lives when they aren’t even busy. This normalization of a fake lifestyle and a flex in making their lives look super busy accomplishes opposite results to what’s intended. – 100 aura points.
