Lately, social media has become a mine for everything. In fact, young people have turned to TikTok for answers they usually had to Google. This week, while scrolling through TikTok, we came across profound marriage advice from married women towards single ladies.
The incepting question from TikToker @Thais radiant_ng stated: “Married women, what’s your greatest regret about marriage? Advise the single girls. It could be anything.” The users were quick to comment.
Having scrolled, found and picked the most interesting replies, pluck your seats and enjoy a good read.
“Never Marry a Narcissist” came among the most liked responses, with 15.3k reactions. The English dictionary defines narcissism as an act of self-centeredness and being short on empathy. Psychiatrists term the act as a disorder (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), defining it as a legitimate mental health condition that requires diagnosis by a mental health specialist. So dear, if that person who keeps you up all night is either self-centred, lacks empathy or has both, run for your life!
“You better come first” TikToker, Glam by Cee, says you always come first, remember! Don’t think so? Well, this response here had over 26,000 likes. To further echo it deep into our minds were comments such as one from @Lean on my shoulders, who asked how they should like the comment more than once.
“They have to be God-fearing” For the non-believers, you may want to reconsider your decision after reading this. Genny Ri advises singles to “Marry a man who is grounded in the lord. If he does not look up to God, he can’t lead you.” Surprisingly, she’s not the only one with the same thinking – 24.300 other users feel the same way.
“Always go for the calmer ones” Did you chase someone away because they seemed boring? How far did they run? You might need to call them back. A comment from Deni says, “That boring but peaceful guy, marry him, sis. You’ll get older and calmer, and you’ll desire peace over everything else.”
“Never stay in the same house with your husband’s family.” Not our words. We don’t want men coming at us. We are just messengers of @hubby’s pride and 14.2000 other users.
“Marry a kind man, even when they are mad, they will still treat and correct you without abuse,” advised @brainysandra. Isn’t she right? With all the soaring cases of domestic violence in homes and divorce or death as a result, someone had to remind the singles to triple-check their lists of men’s qualities they root for. Again, please don’t stomp our offices, nor make our numbers busy. We are just parcels delivering packages from married women to single women.
A user we have decided to grant anonymity says: “Treat his family exactly how he treats yours. Life is not too hard, don’t make it.” And for those who want to marry for wealth, rethink sisters, PresMonkey and 25,300 other users stress you should be financially independent before getting married, and while you are, HIDE IT!
For my Christian sisters, I mean the ones that do things by the book, which may include giving birth to as many children as you can in the name of pro-creation, I have bad news, or maybe they’re not that bad, it will depend on how financially stable you are as a person. Promzy26 emphasises, “Give birth to the number of children you can care for independently,” backed up by almost 300,000 others.
And finally, for our independent ladies out there, the ones who believe in speaking their minds, and those who are yet to learn, “Don’t get married to someone who makes you rehearse before talking to him about anything. You should be able to say your piece and express your feelings, and he should hear you not just listen,” says lomz&Teko plus 17.1 k others.
While these were entertaining, let us know if we should compile a list of the actual regrets from married women to single ladies.
