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<\/figure>\n\n\n\nThat said, it is okay for you as a parent to be concerned about the way your child is living their life- you carried this human for nine months and made them what they are is, what is not okay though, is you wanting them to live life according to your terms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once in a while, you can bring up the topic about when you will meet your daughter\/son in law, just don\u2019t overdo it. The tone you use while inquiring about their other half should also be friendly so as not to spark hard feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Most importantly, the timing should be the \u2018perfect\u2019 one, don\u2019t wait for that Christmas lunch, when the whole family is gathered and having a great moment to pose the question-it will bruise your child\u2019s self-esteem. The invited guests may be his\/her aunties, uncles or siblings, but not \u2018close\u2019 enough for her to start discussing such matters with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ultimately, note that times have changed, settling down may or may not make it to the top of your children to-do list. So, while you feel ready to be called mother\/father-in-law, they on the other hand opt to grow their careers, further their education, travel the world, or become billionaires first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The act of parents pressuring their children to get married is common in most African countries, where the majority of cultures hold parents in high regard, which makes it difficult for children to clap back when their parents become intrusive in their romantic relationships. Have you heard of the saying \u2018age is wisdom\u2019, \u2018adults are always right\u2019, and so many others?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is a plea to parents then, to hold honest conversations with your children, let them know about your concerns, and in the same way, respect their aspirations, life decisions, and perspectives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Embrace the transformation of traditional notions of marriage and gender roles, not societal expectations. Understand that success is more than marriage, it can be; good health, happiness, long life, morals, and values.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
This is a plea to parents, to hold honest conversations with your children, let them know about your concerns, and in the same way, respect their aspirations, life decisions, and perspectives.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":4498,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[81],"tags":[19,95,96],"ppma_author":[120],"class_list":{"0":"post-4497","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-culture","8":"tag-featured","9":"tag-opinion","10":"tag-women"},"yoast_head":"\n